A year ago yesterday my daughter was born. That also means I’ve been a father for a year. If those first two sentences seem redundant, believe me, they’re not. They’re absolutely two different and independent facts and events.
It’s definitely necessary to assess situations more often than yearly but Continue Reading…
Whether or not having a baby has a positive or negative effect on an athletes career is a controversial subject. On the one hand, one could argue that anything that takes away from your focus on the task at hand and especially a commitment as challenging as a newborn would be a huge obstacle that would probably hinder an athlete. However, it is my belief that having a child is actually a positive thing in the life of an athlete.
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The Art Of Adaptation:
About 8 months ago I found out I was having a baby. My immediate reaction was “Oh hell no!” As if I had the final say in anything. Really though it was probably the most significant moment of change in my entire 24 years on this planet. I think it is a common reaction for people who aren’t expecting and don’t have children as a priority in their life.
Until that point I had put very little effort into the abortion debate and what my views were on it. At that point I didn’t have a lot of time to think about it let alone research it… oh how I wish I had paid more attention to this issue during elections.
When you don’t have a lot of time to make a decision you tend to rely on emotional decisions. My emotions were, loss of control, confusion, worry and anxiety. Different than emotion is instinct. Malcolm Gladwell talks about this in his book Blink. My instinct was totally different, I just didn’t trust it in the beginning. This is the reason if emotions are clouding your judgement or even if you can’t pick up on that, you should give yourself some time to make a major decision.
My decision would be life altering. I didn’t have the last say if it would happen but I had a voice. If I decided against we could have come to the same decision or we may have disagreed which would have led down one road. The other decision, to keep the baby would inevitably lead to changing our life, starting a family and being responsible for another human being.
I scrambled to gather what ever information I could. To be honest it may not have been the most scholastic information but it was motivational, blogs and YouTube videos. Thinking back on this now I can’t believe that decisions of this magnitude sometimes hinge on social media in this generations… is that good or bad? (That is another post for sure.)
Videos like this one are readily available.
Don’t think it was a good idea… talk to me when you’re in that situation is all I can say.
In the end it all worked out and those two strategies listed above really helped me come to the right decision for me and my family. This was one situation but I’m sure they can be applied to a number of high pressure or crisis situations.
Comment and tell me about situations where you needed to adapt to make a clear decision.
Why I’m blogging and what this blog is about:
Having a baby and starting a family has really made me think about the past, present and future. It has made me realize that through out life there will be many things that change. These things happen in all aspects of life. They may include family, business, sports, education, goals, dreams, motivation. What ever those changes are it is necessary to adapt to this change.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.”
-Charles Darwin
Darwin’s evolutionary theory is applicable in many different situations. While most changes in our lives won’t necessarily involve life or death choices we should try our best to handle each situation to the best of our ability.
This blog is my take on different change that happens in life and how I feel it could or should be handled.
I hope this blog can serve as some sort of blueprint for readers to develop their own Art of Adaptation.
Tenacious marketer trying to make a difference while pursuing mental and physical enlightenment. Obsessed with self-improvement.
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