The Art Of Adaptation:
- Don’t make emotional decisions.
- Gather information to make informed decisions.
About 8 months ago I found out I was having a baby. My immediate reaction was “Oh hell no!” As if I had the final say in anything. Really though it was probably the most significant moment of change in my entire 24 years on this planet. I think it is a common reaction for people who aren’t expecting and don’t have children as a priority in their life.
Until that point I had put very little effort into the abortion debate and what my views were on it. At that point I didn’t have a lot of time to think about it let alone research it… oh how I wish I had paid more attention to this issue during elections.
When you don’t have a lot of time to make a decision you tend to rely on emotional decisions. My emotions were, loss of control, confusion, worry and anxiety. Different than emotion is instinct. Malcolm Gladwell talks about this in his book Blink. My instinct was totally different, I just didn’t trust it in the beginning. This is the reason if emotions are clouding your judgement or even if you can’t pick up on that, you should give yourself some time to make a major decision.
My decision would be life altering. I didn’t have the last say if it would happen but I had a voice. If I decided against we could have come to the same decision or we may have disagreed which would have led down one road. The other decision, to keep the baby would inevitably lead to changing our life, starting a family and being responsible for another human being.
I scrambled to gather what ever information I could. To be honest it may not have been the most scholastic information but it was motivational, blogs and YouTube videos. Thinking back on this now I can’t believe that decisions of this magnitude sometimes hinge on social media in this generations… is that good or bad? (That is another post for sure.)
Videos like this one are readily available.
Don’t think it was a good idea… talk to me when you’re in that situation is all I can say.
In the end it all worked out and those two strategies listed above really helped me come to the right decision for me and my family. This was one situation but I’m sure they can be applied to a number of high pressure or crisis situations.
Comment and tell me about situations where you needed to adapt to make a clear decision.